Gay Rights in China

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The Economist talks about 同妻, aka: Homowives

Friday, March 19th, 2010

This is a subject I find rather fascinating, as can be seen from this previous post on gay men marrying heterosexual women in China.  Today I was again reminded of this sad occurrence by the Economist magazine, which published a short article on the subject.  Worth a read if you’re interested.

It is estimated that 15-20% of gay men in America marry heterosexual women. But Liu Dalin, a pioneering sexologist now retired from the University of Shanghai, has put the share in China at 90%. If so, the number of tongqi in China may be as high as 25m.

Last week I joined 飞赞 (Fei Zan), a kind of Facebook for gay men in China.  Shanghai’s City Weekend LGBeat blog recently published a nice introduction to the service.  One of the fascinating things about it is that is entirely geared towards gay men in China (the site is only in Chinese), which these days are often only open about their sexuality online.  So on top of the usual information you would find on a social networking site 飞赞 also asks you to share whether or not you are closeted, what role you play during sex, and the state of your body hair.  They also ask whether or not you plan on getting married (是否结婚).  As a gay guy from Massachusetts my answer would normally be a definitive yes, but since this is China saying you plan on getting married is akin to saying you will never be completely open about your sexuality and that you and some poor woman will live a sexless life together.  So in these circumstances I put down that I do not plan on getting married, a assertion that I will have open relationships with men, but from what I’ve seen on the site I am the only one that thinks this way.

Dropping the ball

Tuesday, March 9th, 2010

I have really neglected my blogging duties as of late.  Most egregiously in my mind I stopped bothering to write about new developments in gay rights here in the People’s Republic of China, even though so much has already happened in this new year.  Like how about the fact that the Beijing authorities shut down China’s first “Mr. Gay Pageant” and a guy (from Xinjiang of all places!) went to the international “Mr. Gay Pagaent” in Oslo anyway.  Even my old Beijing roomate, a devout heterosexual, managed to write about this “Mr. Gay Pageant” debacle.  And how could I ignore the first gay wedding in China or the great pictures that came from it?  Having forgotten to mention the marriage it was no doubt expected that I would neglect to talk about the backlash that comes from being the first “married” gay couple in China, but that doesn’t make my inaction okay.  Even the Shanghaiist blog’s Top 5 gay China moments of 2009 warranted a mention, though apparently not by me.  I was too busy ignoring my duties to bother to say much about any of this and I apologize for this lapse of judgment.  Maybe it’s because I’m single.

Besides my laziness, lack of a boyfriend and a graduate school application that had to be finished I was also traveling most of February, sans laptop.  Shanghai in the winter can be a bit of a downer so it was an easy decision to dip into my savings and head south to Thailand and Malaysia for a couple weeks with some American friends of mine.  It was a very pleasurable way to celebrate the Chinese New Year and I came back with quite a hefty collection of photographs, some of which I’m hoping to exhibit on this blog in the style of Primitive Culture and Itinerant Bordeaux (two very awesome blogs about travel and food written by two very attractive men).  For now you can check out my Flickr page for all the photos or just soak in the relaxed vibes from this photograph.

A daily of life on the island of Ko Lanta, Thailand.

Life on the island of Ko Lanta, Thailand.

Gay conversion therapy in China

Wednesday, December 9th, 2009

Being a homosexual was a criminal act in China until 1997 and Homosexuality was listed as a mental illness in China until 2001, facts we should not forget when talking about the long march for gay rights happening in this country.   Another hiccup in the generally positive development of gay rights in China is the use of gay conversion therapy here.  Gay conversion therapy is when people (stupidly) try to convert a gay person into a straight person.  This useless act is often tried through the use of religious guilt, peer pressure and sometimes more bizarre actions: “Picture this: you are watching gay porn, you are feeling good.  But they put ammonia into your nose to make you feel bad.”  I didn’t know that gay conversion was going on in China (other than the feeble attempts of Chinese mothers to help their gay sons find a wife), but I guess it is happening in both the Christian community and with professional psychiatrists.

The Global Times (they seem to be talking a lot about gay issues these days) just published an article about a public forum at Beijing’s Renmin University by Yi Huso, a “research fellow at the HIV Center for Clinical and Behavioral Studies at Columbia University in New York and a visiting assistant professor at Renmin University of China in Beijing,” which discussed the use of gay conversion therapy in China.

The article is rather odd.  It clearly states how gay conversion is bad for gay men, “those who failed at therapy might have been harmed in terms of chronic depression, low self-esteem, have difficulty sustaining relationships and experience sexual dysfunction.”  At the same time the article ends by quoting a Chinese “expert” who believes that, “If he/she is willing to change, I believe the therapy would not cause any harm.”  The whole thing is not very well written and besides making it clear that there are well over 10 million gay men in China the article doesn’t mention how the straight Chinese population needs to change to allow for a more *cough* harmonious future.  So, in the end the only real value I got from the article came from the intriguing story of one gay man who had gone through gay conversion therapy in China:

Will, 20, a self-described sexually confused boy who embraces several religions, nodded from time to time.

As a Christian, he experienced the “spiritual interventions” designed to rid the individual of his or her sexual orientation through prayer, group support and pressure.

“But I failed because I could not stand when they kept telling me how sinful I am and stopped me from meeting my gay friends,” he said.

At last, traumatic anti-gay encounters changed his mind.

“I can have no sex. I can have no religion. But I cannot be non-gay just because others say I am wrong to be gay,” he said.

In the end it’s all just more mixed signals from the Chinese government and the Communist Party, which in fact runs the Global Times.  Just yesterday there was an article published by Xinhua, the official press agency of the Chinese government, with the headline: “Public tolerance needed for Chinese gays to tackle AIDS.”  On the same day Beijing News published a report on how the China Telecom is blocking websites set up to provide information to homosexuals:

The report quoted Guangdong branch company of China Telecom, one of the country’s main internet service providers, as saying that the “green filtering software” which was somehow put in place without prior application and confirmation of its clients has blocked a majority of government-sponsored websites that provide authoritative information on HIV/AIDS prevention and common knowledge about homosexuality.

What a mess….

More hope for gay rights in China? I don’t know…

Tuesday, December 1st, 2009

The Global Times (环球时报) is an international affairs newspaper published by the People’s Daily (人民日报), the official mouthpiece of the Communist Party of China, and it is usually about as entertaining as that sounds.  Unlike the People’s Daily the Global Times is hugely popular in China, my students in Huaihua used to read it all the time (they used its fiercely nationalistic articles to help them craft their essays for school).  Global Times is nationalistic and often goes after foreign governments, which can make it kind of grating to read as a foreigner.  This year they started printing an English version of the newspaper as part of the Chinese government’s multi-billion dollar investment to make the Chinese viewpoint heard round the world (they also want to start a 24/7 English news channel).  The English Global Times has enlisted a wide range of people to write articles and op-eds, including many English speaking expats living in China (even some bloggers), which means the paper has a far more diverse viewpoint than its Chinese mother.

I don’t usually read the paper, though recently the paper ran an op-ed with a headline that got my attention: “More Hope for Gay Rights in China Than in the US.”  How could I resist that?

The author is James Palmer. He is a non-fiction writer who recently published his book The Bloody White Baron, a history of the Russian Baron Ungern-Sternberg (1886–1921).  He lives in Beijing.  Mr. Palmer makes some really great points in his editorial, but in the end his thesis is wrong.  I thought I’d hash out the details here.

He starts by saying that with the recent civil rights losses in Maine (the passing of a Constitutional amendment banning gay marriage) and Rhode Island (the governor forbade gay partners from enjoying funeral rights) have left civil rights leaders “despairing”.  While I am certainly saddened by the developments in Maine and Rhode Island I am not despairing, and I don’t think other young LGBT Americans are either.  There was the recent super-sized march in Washington for LGBT rights and the signing into law of the Shepard Byrd Hate Crimes Bill that in my mind seem to offer a lot of hope and promise for the people fighting for LGBT rights in America.  Plus, the generational divide on the issue of gay marriage makes me very secure in the knowledge that there is no reason to despair, at least not too much.  Of course, Mr. Palmer is right in many ways on this point.  The recent murder, dismemberment and burning of 19 year old Jorge Steven Lopez Mercado in Puerto Rico shows that our society has many problems and that the fight for gay rights in America is not merely about marriage.

He then writes:

If anything, the situation in China can seem worse. Gay marriage isn’t even on the administrative agenda yet, and most Chinese homosexuals still live hidden lives, pressured into marriage by their family.

Yet history and culture may offer more hope in China than in the US.

Not a ridiculous proposition, and one that I have also considered here on my blog.  The question is how far can you take this line of thinking?  Will China have nationwide gay marriage rights before the U.S.?  (Yes, that day will certainly come, both here and there.)  Will China’s gay rights movement follow along a path similar to America’s?  In the end I think the real question that makes such nation to nation comparisons fraught with difficulty is: What are the underlying differences between our culture’s views on homosexuality and how will these differences affect the fight for gay rights?

Mr. Palmer feels the same and he wrote a bit about homosexuality’s (especially male homosexuality) place in Chinese culture and history, something him and I both seem to have an interest in.  He brings up the eminent Jesuit missionary Matteo Ricci (1552-1610), a man more fascinating and game-changing than Marco Polo ever was, who, in his quest to convert the Chinese masses, looked the other way when it came to ancestor worship but could never understand the Chinese people’s acceptance of homosexuality.  He wrote of homosexuality: “It is spoken of in public and practised everywhere without there being anyone to prevent it.”

European societies, as Mr. Palmer points out, were cultures where homosexuality was, “condemned by religion, law and custom, and vicious punishments, even including death, were handed down to gay men.”  In contrast, China had long viewed homosexuality not in such black and white terms.  Many Chinese Emperors were bisexual (all but one in the Han dynasty), male concubines were allowed and often common among the wealthy, and male poets would write romantic lines about their same sex lovers.  While ancient China was never a homosexual paradise, it was also not the judgmental nightmare than Christian Europe used to be.

It was only with the Self-Strengthening Movement, the fall of the Qing dynasty, and the adoption of Western political and cultural ideas that allowed Western ideas towards homosexuality to become the norm in China.  Mr. Palmer points out that during Mao’s reign homosexuality was considered a “Western bourgeois vice,” a line of thinking that some still believe today.  Go figure, the ancient country with a long history of open homosexuality calls homosexuality a Western trend.  However, China’s history does not in and of itself easily translate into an easier fight for LGBT rights in today’s China.

Mr. Palmer mentions the interesting place of homosexuality in Chinese society today:

Today, gay rights in China are less advanced than in Europe or the US. Although a commonly accepted rule is “no approval, no disapproval, no promotion,”and legal persecution is rare, gays rarely live openly and have a difficult time, in particular, coming out to their parents. (Emphasis added)

Many gay men have male lovers in their 20s, get married and have a child – and then, very often, go back to having secretive same-sex relationships.

This is a pretty solid summary of the situation facing gay men in China today.  Gay men are neither hunted nor welcomed.  Gay bars are hard to find, exist as relatively secretive places and are not a place where you want to be seen by your straight boss.  At the same time the bathrooms of gay bars and clubs are covered in government ads urging the use of safe sex  and inside a Chinese gay bar everyone is very open and friendly.  Hell, the government in Dali, a city in Yunnan province, just opened a gay bar in the city today as a way to stop the spread of AIDS and provide a community center for the gay community. Turns out the gay bar has been put on hold due to the intense media attention, the gay volunteers voted not to open it yet.  If you ask me, this is sign of how the development of gay rights is going to be slow going in China.

Mr. Palmer is also right that most gay men in China still marry women and have children after their 20s.  I talked about these “homowives” and the reasons behind such marriages in a previous blog post.  Since coming to Shanghai I have also learned about  so called “sham marriages” (I forget the Chinese name.  If you know it please post it in the comments), which are when the women in a lesbian couple and the men in a gay couple split off into two straight marriages or when a lesbian and a gay man get married.  These sham marriages are purely for show, the fake heterosexual couples only spend the Chinese New Year together while visiting the in laws, for most of the year everyone can be with their true loves.

In finishing up his argument Mr. Palmer compares America’s Christian society and its “tradition of aggressive masculinity that sees gay men as ‘weak’ or ‘unmanly’” to China, a country that “doesn’t have any of this.”  I can understand this argument, and it does hold true much of the time.  For example, in my classroom last year effeminate boys were some of the most popular students and were not harassed as they might have been in America.  Male friendships are also of a different nature in China and can be worlds away from the American tradition.   Of course nothing is this black and white.  The comments posted by Chinese citizens on a recent BBS about Taiwan’s LGBT Pride parade were often deeply derogatory and violent.  So while being “unmanly” in the eyes of a male American may not be much of a problem in China, being openly gay and proud most certainly is.

The fight for gay rights in America is often, as Mr. Palmer writes, preaching against the “low-level homophobia of the playground” and showing that members of the LGBT community are productive and kind people just like everyone else.  At the same time though the fight for gay rights in China often means bringing up a topic that isn’t even discussed on the playground, let alone used derogatorily among students.  When homosexuality is as closeted as it is in most of China fighting for gay rights can be a huge undertaking.

Mr. Palmer seems to be saying that since China lacks a large Christian community (though, in all fairness, it is growing by leaps and bounds) and an American style love of macho manliness, that means that gay rights will flourish here unimpeded.  Maybe, but as of yet most of the flousihing of the Chinese LGBT community is happening outside of the public eye.  China’s gay community has to take the big step of coming out of the closet and promoting others to do the same before real dramatic changes can take place.  Mr. Palmer writes: “It might be that in 20 years time or longer, China recognizes gay marriage, while large parts of the US and Europe continue to be stuck in the past.”  But for this to happen in China there will have to be a strong open gay community, a governmnet not vague in its stance on gay rights, and probably an explosive moment that ushers in real changes.  Just as Stonewall started the modern gay rights movement in America 40 years ago, a strong stand against prejuidce and hiding could bring needed changes to the Chinese LGBT community.  If that happens I would not be surprised if it took less than 40 years for China to reach the kind of support and acceptance that I can find in my home state of Massachusetts.  I and the tens of millions of LGBT Chinese are waiting.